New habits for a better life



Bank holiday weekend! Excited or dreading it?


It’s another long weekend – will yours be filled with fun or will you be lonely?

I love all weekends but for some people weekends can be a lonely time.  Perhaps you know someone who may be living away from family, moving to a new place and still making friends, or perhaps you’re an older person whose circle of friends is smaller than it used to be.

So, if you’re looking forward to your weekend, but you know someone who is living on their own, check in with them and see how they are doing.

If you’re at a loose end or not looking forward to three days in your own company, here are some ideas to help you get out of the house and connect with new people.

Ø  Check out event-brite and see what’s happening in your area.  Free as well as paid events are included on event-brite. 


Ø  A friend of mine moved to a new city about six months ago and she raves about meet-up.  Walking groups, book clubs as well as social events such as dinner clubs can be found in your local area.  You’ll be with like-minded people who will make you feel welcome.


Ø  If joining a new group and turning up on your own to an event is too overwhelming for you, get yourself to the cinema.  It’s something you can do on your own and if you find a movie that interests you it occupies your mind for a couple of hours.


Ø  If you can drive, get out and about and find a natural landscape.  Even scientific research has caught up with what may of us know, which is that most of us feel better when out and about in nature so go somewhere new.  Look for a nearby RSPB reserve or check out the National Trust or National Heritage as they often have events on long weekends.  When you start looking there’s load on your doorstep.

If you have found a group you to want to join for an event but feel anxious or nervous about turning up on your own, get in touch with the organiser beforehand and ask them to look out for you or make specific arrangements where you can meet them (with the newspaper tucked under your arm and a daffodil in your hair).  Most organisers would be willing and happy to do this.  Let them know you’re nervous about turning up on your own and they’ll make you feel welcome.

So whatever you do this weekend, enjoy.


Ruth Richards